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Want to change? Great! But for whom?

Everyone wants to change for either something or someone. Changing for something (goals, vision, and the whole enchilada) is a great intent. And if you are up for it, good luck to you! Changing for someone (your spouse, employer, friends, parents or the significant other) is a different beast altogether. Not that it’s impossible to do. It is but the challenge is that most of us opt a solo path to meaningful change. And believe me, it’s lonely out there. Probably you’ve been there yourself and know it. And if you do, chances are you may have left your journey to change midway. Disappointed, dejected and feeling depressed. I’ve been there too.…

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Don’t be a “shoulda-head”

Was scrolling through my “promotional” emails (thanks, Gmail! Are you even listening?) this afternoon before bumping into this nugget by Brain Johnson from Optimize. Here’s a snippet: He (Rory Vaden) says: “I believe it is that 1 degree that is the minuscule, almost unnoticeable, nearly invisible, yet the tantamount difference between choosing an attitude that says, ‘I’m not sure yet,’ and one that says, ‘I’m in for good.’ That is, one that asks, ‘Should I?’ versus one that asks, ‘How will I?’ This 1-degree difference of commitment distinguishes which people you can count on and which ones will flake out on you.” 1 degree. It makes all the difference. And……

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You really can’t live until you’ve died a little…

That’s straight from DeadPool 2! Loved the movie and glad that DP was able to clean up the timelines too! (That’s another story!) This line stuck out and I haven’t been able to shake it off of me. Heck, I’m pecking this post out on my way back home… before this vanishes into osmosis. Back to the point: you’ve got to go through the grind to realise the importance of whatever you’re pursuing. Else, it’s just easy. And we don’t value anything that comes easy. Be it money, resources or even talent. I’ve honestly never valued money. It came easy. I simply have to show up at work and do…

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The trust loop…

Trust (verb): believe in the reliability, truth, or ability of. (source: Google) It’s a loop. You have to give first to receive it. And it’s a must for leaders who desire to be influential. It’s funny, however, when I hear them whine about their teams who’re not capable or live up to their expectations. Why would they when they clearly sense a lack of trust in you? Entrust them with responsibility and the faith that they can deliver their best. You’ll be surprised by what they can achieve. And the more you trust them, the more they trust you. It’s a loop. And the only person who can build or break…

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Sometimes you win, sometimes you learn

There’s more to that title (incidentally yet another outstanding book by John Maxwell and a course that I train people on) in each of our lives. It’s particularly a philosophy that I hold dear. Why? Because I’m an experimenter and I’m prone to failures from the get go! And that’s totally alright with me (and is totally normal, in case you were wondering…). It’s my last day in Seoul, South Korea and I’m celebrating! No, I didn’t qualify for the diplomat that I thought would be an outstanding addition to my repertoire. Thankfully, the door’s still open. I have six more months to get stronger in the lifts that I…

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To each his own

Was going through a pile of promotional emails (thanks, Gmail! I still read most of these emails, particularly the ones sent by individuals!) and stumbled onto a piece of text that got me thinking. I read a story about Dave Mustaine. He got kicked out of a band and dedicated his life to making his former band mates jealous of his success. He formed a band called Megadeth, which has sold over 38 million records. Success? No. He was kicked out of Metallica (125 million records sold). So, be careful with what you compare yourself to and how you measure success. I disagree with the statement for it disregards the…

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Everyone’s got a plan…

Until they get punched in the face. Love Mike Tyson for giving us a piece of his mind. And I quite expect him to. He’s been through it all it seems. I quite relate to the aphorism in athletics. Powerlifting to be specific. We’ve got grandiose plans to max out every 12 weeks or perhaps just compete. Instead of bettering our previous record, we focus on smashing all the ones that exist! I know that feeling. And have done that myself… This morning was the first day of the other seminar that I’d planned to attend in Seoul. Great start. Lots of learning. My body hasn’t been ever so tight…

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A whack in the head… just what I needed

Been a productive day in my capsule. Go a lot of boring stuff done — studying a report on literary criticism (a long story that I should save for another day), a presentation deck for an assignment, and a “49 and back” goal setting exercise that’s been pending for more than a month. Earlier this morning at the gym, I made the stupid mistake of lifting a weight that’s too heavy. Fried my CNS and had to lower the weight yet again. Threw my week’s hard work out of the window. I now will have to start the whole cycle again! For the third time! The first thing I did…

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Public commitments

Are a bad idea. At least for me. And I’m quite unsure why I despise them. I know they work. For most people. Or at least the ones who seem to be making them. Countless folks make public commitments only to trail off after some time. Thanks for the public’s short-term memory, the world doesn’t end for these “commitment defaulters.” Both you and I know, that’s quite close to the truth unlike what motivational gurus might want us to believe in. Years ago Stephen Covey along with the 7 Habits of Highly Effective People shared the delightfully simple yet profoundly beautiful concept of Public and Private Victories. It seems, however,…

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How far can you go?

If that’s got you thinking, great! Because it’s one of those rare questions we’ve ever considered asking ourselves. Or perhaps, we’re plainly scared to face the reality and end up actually doing the work. You know what I’m referring to. The grandiose goals that you have for yourself or your company or your team. You’re committed to them, I know. But you’re also working hard every day to follow a set of processes to ensure that you achieve that goal. And that’s just fantastic! Isn’t that what people call success? Surely, it is! But what happens once you succeed? Would you stop caring for your people? Would you stop setting…

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