Picture this — you just placed three of your best art pieces at the neighborhood gallery. After months of toil, you’ve finally managed to put your stunning masterpieces (well, they are to you!) at the most revered local art festival. You’re beaming with pride. And just then, this middle-aged man sneaks up next to you to “admire” your creations.
He turns to you and says, “I think you need more work with those curves in that painting. Something’s missing. It’s not how it should be. But overall, good stuff! Good luck!”
I thought my art was mine. My thoughts, ideas, creativity, vision, philosophy, blood, sweat and tears. What gives you the right to judge me or my work? Where did you get your opinions from in the first place? What makes you think you’re right? Why should I listen to you?
As much as it may sound a little “defensive,” believe me it’s not. A 5-year old would know the difference between good ole’ “constructive feedback” and snap judgment.
And yes, I won’t ever object to tips on childcare despite having done it pretty well. There’s always scope for improvement in that department. But my take here is on creativity. My work. Something that I create for myself. Not to impress others. But to express my ideas.
It’s like AC/DC‘s Angus Young telling Carlos Santana how to play the guitar better! Would the latter even care? Probably not. But then, there won’t be any such discussion in the first place.
I think our world’s riddled with opinions, points of view (POVs) and ideas on what’s right and what’s not right. That’s the reason why committees don’t work. That’s why ordinary folks like us prefer to stay inside our shells all our lives. That’s why the most creative among us prefer to work alone (well some don’t — and they’re dang frustrated too! Not all of them, of course)!
We all fear being judged by someone else’s points of view. Even when we have our own. Is there a grave need to be validated? If yes, why? We need to explore the whys behind everything that we rely on others for — love, care, admiration, expectations, validations or any other aspect that you may think of.
Sure, you cannot be a one-(wo)man-island. Nobody wants or is asking you to become one. But you sure need to carve your own path.
While thinking of a world without judgments is a little too ideal, developing a strong mind that can shield itself from stupid judgments is quite possible.
Work on your art and your mind. The POVs can go to hell.