We’re committed to our jobs, relationships, and pursuits (including binging on Netflix and video games) that take up a chunk of our time and energy. Heck, if someone were to do the math, they would realise that our commitments to others make up 90% of our lifetime!
The remaining 10%, however, determines how happy are you as a human being. It’s time you spend alone to reflect, think, and assess the direction you’re headed to. And if you aren’t feeling happy and content during this time, chances are, you are holding on to something that isn’t worth the stress.
That could be a job that you hate. Or a relationship that’s in distress and warrants a revival or a complete exit. One could also juggle different pursuits like going to the gym, meeting friends, organising parties, networking, travelling, and whatnot.
Throughout my life, I’ve learned that there can be “too much of a good thing.” There’s a breaking point to every aspect of your life. The key is to keep your expectations in check; else, you’re looking for trouble. Most of which can be avoided by eliminating the non-essentials while identifying and focusing on what you need.
Keep a pulse on your day-to-day and identify what makes you uncomfortable or, worse, stressed. If it’s the latter, evaluate and see how important is it in your life. Can you do without it? If yes, chuck it out. If not, well, you’ve got some work to do, starting with examining your expectations from the source of stress. That could be your job, relationship, pursuit, or anything else.
And if you’ve thought about something for long, it’s time to let go. Yes, it’s hard to do that with relationships as they aren’t simple, but if it’s killing you… It’s not worth the stress.