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Keeping your mouth shut may be the most effective way to influence people

One thing I absolutely hate about public speaking is that it puts the speaker on a pedestal, making them appear way more intelligent and valuable then they really are. Not that I despise public speaking or the skill of speaking — I enjoy it myself. But I think it’s overrated. You don’t have to deliver […]

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Leadership Marketing Random Thoughts Selling

The One-Sentence Guide to Persuasion

“People will do anything for those who encourage their dreams, justify their failures, allay their fears, confirm their suspicions, and help them throw rocks at their enemies.” Blair Warren That sentence, my friend, is the only guide to persuasion you will ever need in your career and life. I’m serious. The following five points are […]

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Leadership Personal growth Random Thoughts

The other half of building influence…

Leadership and influence go hand-in-hand. Heck, they’re two sides of the same coin. You can’t have one without the other. Lately, however, it seems people have fallen in love with the word “influence.” It’s tossed and thrown around a lot. So much so that I fear good old leadership just may go out of fashion! […]

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Coaching Personal growth

The most important communication skill that the gurus don’t talk about

It’s not speaking or presentation (with an emphasis on “pre”) skills despite the millions of dollars corporates and individuals alike shell out to get trained on it. Heck, there are gurus who make a living by speaking and creating information products on “speaking and presenting better” every year! But I’m digressing here. I believe the […]

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Random Thoughts

Everyone wants to be an influencer but nobody wants to do the work?

I know the punctuation mark in the headline wasn’t needed as it’s more of a statement than a question. I wish there was an elegant way to put this across. And while I don’t think anything’s wrong with the desire to becoming an influencer, I just feel that becoming one is a fitting consequence than […]

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Fascinating Personal growth

The 6 universal principles of persuasion and the most important one…

I originally found this gem of a video on Tina Roth’s (swiss-miss) site. It describes the six universal principles of persuasion based on Robert Cialdini’s seminal work, Influence. It’s informative, subtle and quite powerful. Look, it make me post this video here! In case you don’t have time to watch the video, these are the […]

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Business Coaching Random Thoughts

Influencing the influencers

Every entrepreneur or a freelancer has gone through the dilemma of finding their audience. More specially, the right audience for them. I’ve been through it myself. Thankfully, though various trials and tribulations I was able to narrow down to the smallest viable audience — the influencers. For me, influencers could be the c-suite, activists, members […]

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Coaching Leadership Personal growth

Encouraging them to do the things they don’t want to

It’s a tall order. And not every supervisor, manager or leader is up to it because it takes real skill, charisma, and influence to have people roll up their sleeves and get to work. Particularly when they don’t like it or worse, hate it! I also think ‘command and control’ is primitive and leaders of […]

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Coaching Leadership Random Thoughts

Perception isn’t reality

One of my colleagues won an online gaming championship hosted by the co-working space we work at. Close to 50 people participated and our colleague destroyed them all. I was so proud of him! Sure it wasn’t a crowning achievement but it sure deserved recognition. It’s not easy to win any competition, big or small. […]